The new ‘rules’ of wedding bands


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The tradition of wearing a band around your finger as a symbol of matrimony dates back many centuries. With the steeped tradition of wedding bands, several traditions or “rules” have emerged over the years.

Here are five traditional rules of wedding bands — and the ways that Perry’s Diamonds & Estate Jewelry in SouthPark has seen these traditions rewritten into new “rules.”

(1) Your Wedding Band Must be Gold

The circular shape of a wedding ring symbolized eternity, and was made out of plain gold. It is estimated that more of the world’s gold is used in simple gold wedding bands than any other type of jewelry. Simple gold wedding bands are no longer the norm now, as couples are choosing platinum and other metals over gold, like tungsten and titanium. However, rings in these alternative metals cannot be sized.

(2) Your Wedding Band Must Match Your Spouse-to-Be

For many decades, the bride and groom selected matching wedding bands, and many jewelry manufacturers still produce sets of wedding bands for the bride and the groom. An updated version of this tradition is to get two bands of different styles that are both crafted from the same metal. You could also get two bands of different metal types in a similar style, or ditch the matching trend altogether and get rings that speak to each of your individual spirits.

(3) You Can Only Have One Wedding Band

Traditionally, the bride receives two rings—the engagement ring upon consenting to marriage, and the wedding band received at the ceremony. Although this tradition continues to be a popular choice, brides haven’t been limiting themselves to just one wedding band lately, and are opting for a more symmetrical look by getting two identical wedding bands to go on either side of the engagement ring. Some receive the second matching band for a significant wedding anniversary, but the bands don’t have to match. Other brides are opting for a band with a gemstone of their partner’s birth month, or to commemorate the birth of children.

(4) You Must Have a Wedding Band and an Engagement Ring

Although the two ring tradition is still largely followed, who says you can’t have just one ring? One popular version of this new “rule” is to set the engagement diamond onto a wedding band, like an eternity band with smaller diamonds placed all the way around the band, and crowned by the engagement diamond on top. If you aren’t into the traditional single diamond engagement ring, opt for a diamond eternity band that has larger diamonds circling the finger.

(5) You Must Engrave Your Wedding Date and Initials in the Inside of the Band


This sweet tradition is one that Perry’s Diamonds & Estate Jewelry still stands behind, although they’ve seen some creative and interesting twists on the tradition.

“One of the more unique things I’ve seen engraved in a wedding band were matching lobsters—yes, the marine crustacean with the googly eyes and the big claws,” said Hadley Perry of Perry’s Diamonds & Estate Jewelry. “The lobster had tremendous significance to the couple, and made for a truly unique detail.”

Song lyrics from the couple’s first dance, with half of a song line on one band and the other half on the second band, could be another interesting twist, Perry suggests. Of course, you can also choose to not engrave anything inside your wedding band, too!

At the end of the day, your wedding band is an outward representation of your love and commitment. Choose rings that best complement your individual taste and style, whether they align with the traditional rules, or you go with the new “rules” (or even no rules at all!).

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